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500 Words on Love

Over at GapingVoid, Hugh is having a call for mini-manifestos - I couldn't resist writing my own, on a topic I find particularly compelling.


On Finding the Love of Your Life

No, I don't mean your husband or wife. In a typically-male, results-focused way, I mean your true calling. The reason you feel that you've been put here.

Let me explain with a story.

I spoke with a friend recently who turned down everyone's dream job (not being asked to be an astronaut, but damn close) because his kids are growing up and he needs to be there for them rather than spending all his time at work. He said to me: "You can only have one primary purpose in life."

That's what I mean by a calling.

Most of us have been brought up to get a job, buy a house, keep up with the Joneses. What would happen if we all followed our true reason for being here?

When you look at the best and brightest, isn't it clear that they're following theirs? Look at Seth: is there any doubt that his calling isn't writing about marketing? Sometimes it almost seems like he emerged from the womb spouting pithy anecdotes about marketing success. Or Tom Peters: can you imagine him being anything but intense about someone running their business at anything less than full-on-WOW?

But it's not just about public work: everyone knows that person who was just born to be a mom or a dad. Or a school teacher. Or an incredible neighbor who has the most incredible garden you've ever seen.

So, look within yourself. Remember back to when you were a little kid and someone asked you what you wanted to be when you grew up, and you actually had the moment where you dreamed for a minute about how cool it would feel when you did THAT thing... whatever it was.

What was it? More importantly, what did THAT feel like? And what makes you feel like THAT today? Because it's not about the content of the dream... it's about the feeling.

Now, take one single step toward doing the thing that gives you THAT feeling. And, if you still love feeling like THAT, take another step towards it. Lather, rinse, repeat.

And look up after some time, and find yourself fulfilled.

How would it change the world if everyone felt filled with THAT every day?

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